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Parents in Brooklyn often ask: How do judges actually decide who gets custody of a child?

The answer is that judges follow the best interests of the child standard. This means the court’s focus is not on which parent “deserves” custody, but on which arrangement gives the child the best chance to thrive emotionally, physically, and academically.

Q1: What Factors Do Judges Look At in Custody Cases?

Brooklyn Family Court considers many factors, including:

  • The child’s age and needs,
  • Each parent’s ability to provide stability,
  • The history of caregiving,
  • Work schedules and availability,
  • Any issues of domestic violence or substance abuse.
  • In case 1, custody was awarded to the parent who had consistently managed the child’s medical and school responsibilities.
  • In case 2, custody went to the other parent after concerns about housing instability were raised.

Learn more: Brooklyn Child Custody & Visitation Attorney

Q2: Does the Child’s Preference Matter?

Yes, but it depends on the child’s age and maturity. Judges listen to children’s wishes, especially for teenagers, but those preferences are just one factor.

  • In case 3, a teenager’s strong preference to live with one parent was considered, but the court balanced it against school stability and family ties.
  • In case 4, a younger child’s stated preference was given less weight because of evidence of coaching by a parent.

NY resource: NY CourtHelp – Custody & Visitation Basics

Q3: How Do Courts Handle High-Conflict Custody Cases?

In contentious cases, judges may:

  • Appoint an Attorney for the Child (AFC) to represent the child’s interests,
  • Order forensic evaluations or home studies,
  • Create detailed visitation schedules,
  • Restrict custody if one parent engages in harmful behavior.
  • In case 5, the court appointed an AFC to help evaluate the child’s wishes in a conflict-heavy case.
  • In case 6, supervised visitation was ordered for one parent due to emotional instability.

NY resource: New York State Unified Court System – Family Court FAQs

Q4: Does Domestic Violence Affect Custody Decisions?

Yes. Brooklyn judges take domestic violence very seriously. Even if abuse was not directed at the child, exposure to violence is considered harmful.

  • In case 7, sole custody was awarded to the non-abusive parent after repeated incidents of violence.
  • In case 8, visitation was limited to supervised settings when a parent refused to complete anger management.

Domestic violence can also influence whether orders of protection are issued alongside custody rulings.

Q5: Out-of-State Comparison – New Jersey

For comparison, New Jersey courts also apply a best-interests standard. Like Brooklyn, they emphasize stability, caregiving history, and safety. However, New Jersey statutes list specific factors judges must weigh, such as a parent’s willingness to foster the child’s relationship with the other parent.

Out-of-state comparison: New Jersey Custody Factors – Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Group (New Jersey firm — shared for comparison only. Gilmer Law Firm, PLLC does not practice law in New Jersey; this is for informational purposes).

Q6: Can Custody Orders Be Changed Later?

Yes. Custody is never permanent. Parents can seek modification if there is a substantial change in circumstances, such as:

  • Relocation,
  • Declining school performance,
  • Medical or mental health concerns,
  • Visitation interference.
  • In case 9, custody was modified when a parent moved across the country without court approval.
  • In case 10, custody shifted after one parent repeatedly interfered with visitation.

Start here: Brooklyn Child Custody & Visitation Attorney

Affordable Custody Representation in Brooklyn

At Gilmer Law Firm, PLLC, we know custody battles are stressful and emotionally draining. That’s why we offer affordable custody attorney services in Brooklyn, with payment plans available, so you can fight for your rights without overwhelming financial strain.

Learn more: Affordable Family Law Services – Gilmer Law Firm PLLC

Key Takeaways

  • Judges decide custody in Brooklyn using the best interests of the child standard.
  • Factors include stability, caregiving history, safety, and sometimes the child’s wishes.
  • High-conflict cases may involve attorneys for the child, supervised visits, or detailed parenting plans.
  • Domestic violence strongly influences custody rulings.
  • Out-of-state comparisons, like New Jersey, show similar emphasis on stability and cooperation.
  • Custody orders can be modified if circumstances change.

If you are facing a custody dispute in Brooklyn Family Court, call Gilmer Law Firm, PLLC today at (718) 864-2011.

With guidance from an experienced Brooklyn custody attorney, you can protect your child’s best interests while safeguarding your parental rights.

About the Author

George M. Gilmer, Esq., a Brooklyn-based attorney, leads the Gilmer Law Firm, PLLC, specializing in family and matrimonial law, ACS cases, immigration, bankruptcy, and criminal law. With over 20 years of legal experience, including arguing cases before high-profile judges like Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor, George is known for his approachable demeanor and commitment to justice. His firm emphasizes affordable, quality legal services, fostering a culture of integrity and compassion, particularly for civil rights and the LGBTQ community.